The Confidence Coin

Sometimes the truth don't always come out nice

Just Gonna Do Me And The Jelly Asses Don’t Have To Listen
‘We are all on our own journey, and we can make a difference. No matter how big or how small.’

My job as a pet professional, is to help people with their dogs. To make their lives easier, more manageable and better for everyone. And I like to think that I do that. Well actually I do exactly that and this is what my clients tell me.

I have a lot of values in my life, but my three core values in my business are as follows: Re-build better relationships of confidence between owner and dog Improve and maintain good behaviours, over the undesirable ones Create more calm in the canine world, than chaos Only yesterday I was speaking to Sue who owns Scout. She was telling me about her weekend and how she hesitated in taking Scout out to a local fete that was on in the village.

At one time, she would never have dreamed of taking him somewhere like this. But she put her big girl pants on and decided to go. Sue was describing how Scout did great in the close quarters of more than one dog.

With no lunging, barking or snapping. Listening, focusing and accepting his rewards.

I talk a lot about building confidence in dogs, because I truly believe there are a lot out there that have very little. Though, what I also believe, is that there are a lot of people out there that have a lack in confidence too.

I know because I've been there. Something that get's dampened and battered each time your dog misbehaves and they embarrass you. Or someone tells you your dog is a menace to society. And that all travels down the lead.

Which leads me on to the human side of the confidence coin.

At the weekend I was up in Sunderland, surrounded by other pet professionals and I thoroughly enjoyed spending time with each and every one of them. These people BUILD confidence in you and want to see you do well. They're supportive and on hand to help whenever you may need it.

It's funny actually because before discovering Dom's crowd of people, I always had the perception of the pet pro industry being incredibly fucking catty. And it is in a lot of areas.

I stopped attending the trainer based conferences, because I found that when I went, I was always disappointed with the nice to the face, but a prick behind your back people, that you get there.

You know the type, right?

I have an annoyingly, useful skill of being able to read underlying intentions in people, just from watching their faces or reading between the lines of posts/statements made. I see things clearly from one little micro expression or gut instinct, and it has never failed me.

When I was 15 and had left home, I spent quite a lot of time with people that had served in the army. The keen as mustard type. The people that wouldn’t hesitate in telling you exactly what they thought to your face but would risk life and limb for you, should you ever be in the shit.

These people are very aware of their surroundings and quick to understand whether a situation was, as it was being presented. Skills I myself picked up. Especially with some of the things I have experienced and been through thus far.

Anyway, I believe when you come across people that are like this, it comes down to this

Jealousy. And I call them 'The Jelly asses'

Some people just don't want to see you doing well with something you are incredibly passionate about, or perhaps they have a misunderstanding on what it is that you are trying to achieve.

Either way, I can take this on the chin these day. At one point in my life my confidence was at an all time low. Now? I've lost a lot of time or any fucks given in caring about what other people think about me. And I know the more I grow in my personality, mu opinions and my business, the more people I will piss off.

So, why am I telling you this Claire?

Something Debs with Jarvis said to me yesterday was ‘I imagine you are used to it’

She was right too. I don’t give two fucks what people think about me or what I say to keep a dog safe and happy and I'll continue to keep doing things that make me and my clients happy too. Whilst getting the good results in my training that I continue to get.

That's what it's all about for me. Making sure we have a better behaved society of dogs. Shame I can't wave a magic wand on getting that from some of the human population though lol.

I may not have a stupid amount of letters after my name or any kind of NBE in dog training or behaviour qualifications. But I am qualified to teach and what I do know, is the things I do and teach people, works.

I’m just tryna make good, a little bit greater.

If you are a determined, action taking person who is ready to kick things into shape with your dog, then I need to tell you now, I will be tightening down more on who I accept into my training world.

I know I can't help everybody and the people I want to work with are those that listen, are willing to try new things and will go away and put in the practice, just like Sue and Debs are with Scout and Jarvis.

When you start to dwell on what other people may think about you, you're on a fast track route to knocking your confidence further and falling victim to those who like the power element of control in your life.

This is your life, and you will do with it what you want to do. Only ever do the things you truly believe in and are 110% passionate about. Then show them the results.

That's what I'm doing and the jelly asses that aren't liking the heat, can stay out of my kitchen.

Speak soon,



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